Couples Counseling

Keeping a loving, healthy relationship takes work, but it is SO worth it!

Based in Austin, I work with same-sex and opposite-sex couples (married or not) who want to learn how to have a mutually giving and growing relationship.  Most of the couples I see first come because there are problems that they don't know how to deal with.  Many of them continue to seek couples therapy periodically after their problems are resolved, just to check in and make sure they keep growing together.  Of course, every couple is different, so I spend the first few sessions gaining a thorough understanding of each partner, what they want, and what they are willing to invest into the relationship. I typically meet with both people together for the duration of our couples therapy. Even though I tailor my approaches and strategies to each couples' needs, there are several issues that we usually talk about in the course of treatment.  They are:

  1. Communication skills in couples therapy.

It's amazing how many problems can be resolved just by learning to communicate better.  I coach couples in all aspects of communication, including listening, introducing a conflictual topic, identifying one's "filters" that influence how messages are perceived, and much more. In our sessions, couples practice talking to each other and I give suggestions along the way. Improving communication is a benefit in every interaction, whether at work or at home.

  1. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for couples counseling.

Personality type is very valuable in the context of relationship. It helps couples to realize that their partner is different than they are . We humans tend to think that everyone should act like, think like, and be like we are. It opens up a whole new perspective to see that our partner is just wired differently. This is a fun topic and promotes lots of good conversation.

  1. John Gottman's work for couples and marriage therapy.

Dr. Gottman's approach to relationship health has been developed from 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. It is the most extensive study ever done on marital stability and divorce prediction.  This is a valuable tool we can use in couples and marriage counseling today. He has honed his years of research down to seven basic principles for making relationships work.  I find these very useful in my therapy with couples.

I typically give couples assignments - specific things to work on - during the week, and we review and evaluate progress along the way.

Ready to talk? I'm ready to listen.

(512) 517-1993